Living A More Meaningful Life
It can be easy to run through the maze of life without pausing to think of its meaning.
Does what I’m doing matter?
More importantly, does it matter to me?
Last…. Is it ESSENTIAL?
Doing what you are passionate about is what draws meaning with purpose driving you. What is essential, is to know where to say NO and WHEN. Getting back to basics is our favorite thing. You have to know, this journey has been a very painful thing for me, as I was ADDICTED to doing and going, thinking I was being an effective wife, mother and entrepreneur. Guess what? I was NOT.
1. Learn What Is ESSENTIALLY Important
Know what’s important for you. What are your top 5 things that you believe are the essence of how you want to live life? Write them down. This can include things like “family time,” or “playing everyday.” For some, it could be more character based. Maybe you are a whiner? Try writing down something like: “find more meaning” or “simplify”.
2. The Search
I believe everyone should pursue their passion in life. It’s what makes life worth living, and gives our lives true meaning and purpose. It is where LOVE meets THRILL.
Start asking yourself deeper questions of what brings you this type of JOY. If you can’t manage (or aren’t ready) to work on your passion for a living, try to make time for it every day. Become like a hedgehog by becoming an expert in it, you will eventually have the opportunity to make money from it. Enjoy the benefits from success, it is on it’s way!
3. Your Life’s Purpose
If you had to give yourself a reason to live, what would it be? What would you stand for? What principles do you hold highest? Is your life’s purpose to help others? Is it to inspire others or lead a strong family? Whatever it is, you can feel it in your heart, your stomach tells you and your mind races when you long for one, but have chosen another.
Here is an example. Think about going to dinner. You are very hungry for Thai, but your partner would like pizza. To keep “harmony” you choose pizza, though you have been wanting Thai for months now. You go in, hungry, eat the pasty crust and bloating cheese wishing the entire time you would have spoken up and chosen Thai. We often do that with our career, our homes, our relationships and certainly our clothes. If you are not in LOVE with it and think about it all of the time, something is not right. I understand Thai food and pizza have nothing to do with your divine purpose, but it has everything to do with our choices. When we choose wisely, keeping our mind, heart and intuition in alignment, we are always living with purpose and passion. If they are out of balance, or way off in left field, you will know it. You will loose the meaningful blessings of being present and adoring what you do, who you are with and what you are about.
4. What Are You Meant To Be Doing?
Be aware of yourself and your actions. Remain mindful of what you do at all times, and make sure you are living life according to your principles, your life’s purpose, and what you are passionate about. Ask yourself a few questions in review:
1. Have you strayed from your path.
2. Are you staying true to your goals?
3. Double check what is essential and non-essential. What needs to go?
Work towards correcting any incidents in the future. Meditation is a great tool for focussing on those essential items that lead to your purpose, allowing you to do what you were meant to be doing.
5. Laser Like Focus
Those seeking back-to-basic lifestyles that are clutter-free will not chase goals. They will choose ONE or maybe TWO to focus on. By placing all of your energy on one thing, you are allowed to truly focus. Imagine— no juggling. No running crazy. Peace. More “us” and “me” time. You first have to learn to say NO in order to focus clearly on your end goal(s).
6. Relationships Trump “Things”
People More Than Things. Often, we are faced with wanting to buy material items and services. Clutter and non-essential items cause us to focus more on the “items” we are purchasing than focussing on experiences with family and friends. Relationships will always trump cluttered purchases and the things you have.
7. Live With Compassion
Both for yourself, and others. Keep in mind the following quote:
“I never quite believed that one chance is all I get.” Anne Tyler
Life is full of second chances. Living free from non-essential mish-mash will allow you to look compassionately at yourself and those around you. Why? Because you are no longer running faster to get there first, to be the best and to over achieve. You will be more forgiving of others and yourself when you are living with compassion.
8. Giving Back
What honors your purpose and passion? Do something that both honors both, while giving something back to the world around you. By giving something back, we inevitably find purpose in the act of giving. You will always find passion to back it up because you believe in what you are pursuing.
9. Simplify Your Life
Finding purpose in the small things will allow way more freedom. Where we make it sticky, is when we complicate it by saying yes, running too fast and overachieving to make sure you kid has the best looking clothes, the biggest bow and church and the sexiest gown and prom. By simplifying your life, you’ll have more time to do what fulfills you and gives your life meaning.
10. Find Your Daily Essence
In the morning, before you start your day, create a list of 3 items you are CHOOSING to do that you find fulfilling and meaningful. Make sure they adhere to your set of principles and beliefs. Muti-tasking will only lead to frazzle, overbooking yourself and taking your freedom to CHOOSE.
Consider this, most things in life are unimportant, and practically everything we “think” is important, is clutter in our lives and non-essential. They definitely do not bring us closer to living our purpose with passion. If going to bed at night leaves you exhausted from the day, and not eager to get out of bed in the morning, then take note. What is out of order?
Living a life of purpose gives both fulfillment and meaning to your journey. May you choose wisely to connect your heart and mind back to the basics. Learning to say no to the non-essential things and leaning into a more uncluttered life that brings more meaning to your purpose. You will find passion in the act of living.